The song playing in the background was first introduced by Dead or Alive back in the 1980’s. Following its success, there have been numerous remakes and remixes of this addictive song in which some of the words have either been added or removed. Either way, the chorus remains constant:
All I know is that to me
You look like you’re having fun
Open up your lovin’ arms
Watch out…here I come
You spin me right round baby, right round
Like a record baby, right round round round.
Random guy sits alone at the corner of the crowded, noisy club observing the young lady mouthing to the song while dancing furiously. He waits for lady to stop paying attention to her drink and makes his move. He laces her glass with a sedative – usually a sleeping pill – then makes his way to her when she becomes weak and disoriented. That would be the typical drink-spiking scenario we see in movies.
Scary? This is scarier.
That movie-like scene is no longer your typical scenario, nor is the young lady your typical drink-spiking victim. According to a research done by the Roofie Foundation, a British organisation that deals with drink-spiking and drug rape, women aged between 30 to 50 were most at risk and a significant proportion of victims had their drinks spiked at work-related events, private homes and even on business premises, going against the notion that drink-spiking only occurs in rowdy nightclubs or pubs.
Cik Senah was at a business function when a colleague of hers bought her a bottle of beer. More than just a social drinker, she knew she was good at holding her drinks, but as soon as she consumed that beer, she could barely walk.
“I knew what was going on. I just couldn’t physically regain myself. I suspected something amiss because that very same guy was so persistent on sending me home. Luckily my cousins were with me and they insisted they’d send me back. Few of my friends had the same experience. It’s sick that most of the cases are by people that you know”
Rebecca was not so fortunate to have her friends send her home. All she recalls was lying naked at someone else’s home the next day with a painful throb in between her eyes and legs. Mortified, she used his bathroom to ‘freshen up’, still confused as to what had happened the night before.
“I felt something was not right. I’ve been drunk many times, and my after effects of drinking are predictable – I won’t be walking straight, but I’m aware of my surroundings. Then I’d vomit it all out, be hungry – gorge at the nearest mamak store with friends and then wake up with a massive hangover the next day. The important thing is this: I’d usually remember what happens. But this time around, I couldn’t recall a thing!”
Rebecca had squat down to peer into her genitals using the mirror of her compact powder and had inserted a finger into her vagina for traces of semen or the film of a condom. The smell confirmed her fears.
Both Cik Senah and Rebecca did not report the incident.
“At that time, I was young. Didn’t know you could report such a ‘trivia matter’,” says Cik Senah.
For Rebecca, she had just got married and her husband was away.
“I was out partying and I thought I had contributed to the whole fiasco…like the rape was partly my fault. By the time I had the courage to tell someone, it was too late to investigate as the evidence leaves the body after 72 hours. Neither did I see a doctor for the bruises around my private parts. My in-laws had always frowned upon my late night out with the girls, and I didn’t want them to say ‘serve you right’…who was going to believe a party animal like me anyway?”
Alex on the other hand, reported the incident but despite the information, the school he was working in pressed forward his dismissal for being under the influence of drugs. His career was ruined and his reputation tarnished.
“I was out the night before and woke up late the next day to school. Apparently, I was acting strange and the school security pulled me aside, suspecting me to be high on drugs. My friend took me to the hospital and the blood test showed evidence of a pill commonly used as a horse tranquillizer. I didn’t even know I was raped but that’s what the doctor told me.”
In most drink-spiking incidents, the perpetrator intends to physically or sexually assault them although in Harwin’s case, his ‘friend’ admitted to spiking his drink.
“I was with a new group of friends who apparently offered free drugs till you get hooked, and then they make you pay. I didn’t report them, but I stopped hanging out with them immediately.”
The Chinese New Year celebrations may be your chance to let loose, but do beware of the risks. You never know when that unwelcome inebriation of drinks comes your way.
As the catchy bit of the song goes: ‘ watch out..here I come…You spin me right round baby right round…like a record baby right round round round’.
* Names have been changed for protection.
Daphne Iking is a TV anchor and emcee. This is her first article for the Different Spin and was slightly late in the target deadline, not because her Milo was spiked, but because she is still learning to adjust to her 3 year old’s new schedule now that the little tike has started school.